The countdown to 2015 continues. For our next trick, let’s send our excuses straight to the place where the sun don’t shine. So by now we’ve started thinking about our intentions for what we want 2015 to look like, answering questions and dreaming big. We’ve focused on gratitude, acknowledging how important it is to recognize what we do have. We took all of these thoughts and good energy for a wander in nature and then we took our passions out to play.
It’s not necessarily a linear process, but all things that we can take together to shake it up and get ready for a new year. Do you notice that contemplating our passions often tends to coincide with excuses and obstacles for why we can’t pursue them?
“I would if I could…”
“I’d love to, if only…”
“I don’t know how…”
“I’ll do it when…”
I’m the most guilty of saying, “Well I would, but I don’t have the money now.” Until one day it occurred to me that I didn’t even know how much money it would take to do the thing I was saying I couldn’t afford.
Maybe it is true that I didn’t have the money in that moment and I could choose to give up there and stay stuck. Instead, I now scribble that information onto the “Known” list. I take a look at what else I know to be true and then I start to figure out all of the unknowns. In this example, how much money would it take to do x?
I think there is a lot of information hidden in our excuses. We may even believe they are logical ‘reasons’.
They often point to where we feel scarcity in our lives…
Not having enough money
Not knowing what it is we want to do
Not having the resources, knowledge…and you knew this was coming…not having the time.
“I don’t have time is the grown up version of the dog ate my homework.” ~ Unknown
or they point to where we feel responsibility in our lives…
I have a mortgage.
I have a job, benefits, tenure, etc.
I have debt.
I have kids, family and relationships to tend to.
Responsibilities are legitimate things, absolutely. They also point to the outcomes of previous decisions we’ve made in our lives, again giving us information about our values, desires, habits, choices, resources and circumstances.
How you spend your time, money and energy is indicative of both your priorities and your responsibilities.
“We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves happy, the amount work is the same.” ~ Carlos Castaneda
What comes next is a lot of good news for you if you’re willing to get into a staring contest with your excuses.
If you want something, it is almost always possible and doable. This has been a huge lesson for me the last two years and then I’ve had it demonstrated to me over and over again.
You just need to decide how much you want it, get curious and prioritize accordingly.
“Forget all of the reasons it won’t work and believe the one reason it will.” ~ Unknown
“no really though…”
It doesn’t mean you will not have to take risks or give things up or make changes…all challenging things to do and ultimately all reasons why it can be more comfortable to blame the excuse rather than do something about it. AND…it’s all worth it to go after what you really want in life.
Here is the challenge and the opportunity to get your head and your heart working together instead of playing tug-o-war…
Excuses be damned. If you could do anything in the world with your life, what would you most want to do, as you see it now?
Whatever your answer, do you really mean it?
What is stopping you? (If nothing, than awesome. Share your experience in the comments!)
What do you know to be true? What are the unknowns?
Are you going after it? What are you discovering?
Are you not going after it? Why not? What’s in your way?
What’s really in your way?
How could you approach it differently?
What have you tried to do about it and what happened?
What is a different way to look at it? This is an invitation to get creative and unconventional. Find out what it would actually take and then start figuring out the path to get there…knowing the path is sometimes a puzzle and sometimes a paved highway.
I have met parents with kids who are traveling and living in other parts of the world.
I have met artists who are using their final pennies to pursue their craft while waiting to get into school…and opportunities are showing up.
I have met dreamers with ideas who are engaging in entrepreneurial pursuits on the side of their jobs until they can make the transition.
I have met healers who are trading their talents in exchange for services when money is not yet there.
I have met adventurers and I myself have invited in and accepted the generosity of others knowing full well that we will give it back tenfold when we are able.
This is intended as an invitation. This is meant to be exciting and freeing.
“If it is important to you, you’ll find a way. If not, you’ll find an excuse.” ~ Unknown
It took two years from the time I had the inkling to follow a dream and the time I worked my way through shifting priorities and refocusing the circumstances from past decisions. For me this meant deciding to sell my house and my car in order to free myself of attachments and financial responsibilities before coming to Argentina.
I did it. It worked. It’s a practice…this whole “excuses be damned!” thing and I continue to be dedicated to it. I’m hoping to help inspire others to do the same through the book and interactive guidebook I am now writing.
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This is number 6 in a series of 10 personal development blogs counting down to 2015, in hopes of inspiring an adventurous, fulfilling year ahead. Follow this blog to receive the others in this series and check out more of my story at erinkmac.com.
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